Dr Joe Abah, The Director-General, Bureau of Public Service Reforms in the Office of the President has shared tips from his experience in 25 years of marriage.
“The tips here won’t work for everyone” he cautions before tweeting the following:
“You see, there is division of labour in marriage. What she says about the house goes; Furniture, curtains, colours, throw pillows, blinds etc. As a man, you only know basic colours. Don’t even argue about the difference between fuchsia pink and coral or between blue and cobalt. If you come home before madam and the house help asks what you would eat, tell her “lemme call madam and ask her”.
He talks about events and household chores:
“Tell madam the party starts 7pm when it actually starts 8pm and be ready by 6:30pm and offer to help iron, get her slippers etc. You did be better SEEN ready before your madam. Don’t go and start watching a match and think “i only need 15 minutes to get ready”. When you are going out with madam, always carry at least two handkerchiefs. She will need at least one. Trust me, am a Doctor.
Although you can pay to have everything done for you, madam is happy when you fix things yourself. Change light, jumpstart the car…”
Dr. Abah also tweeted about domestic violence:
“Never ever hit your woman, no matter the provocation! That’s even if she hits you. You are strong enough to bear it and talk to her later. Never be to friendly with her friends. It’s better that they see you as quiet or even aloof, stuck up and distant.
There is absolutely no need to prove to your woman that you are a man. All you need to prove, constantly, is that you love her. The fact that you love your kids which she bore for you is not the same as showing her love in her own right. Don’t get it twisted.”
He talks about women been clingy: “Your woman wants you to be hardworking but also stay with her all day. Deal with it. Come home early occasionally and let her know you did. Free her from cooking at least once a week. I choose Sundays. Make her feel special on Mother’s day and on her birthday, cook for her.
Remember that you have left your father and mother (especially your mother!) to cleave to your wife and you two have become one. Support your wife work, learn about it. Help her prepare spreed sheet and invoice. Let outsiders know she that she is not alone. If she wants to go into business, support her, even if you don’t think its a good idea.”
Don’t doubt her intuition. If it fails, Nothing spoil. If your woman tells you to be careful with one of your friends, be careful. Be very careful, woman have ‘third eyes’ and can read body language.
Never disagree with your woman in front of the children. Never! You can always talk to her later. Always present a united front. Women are more particular. Always ask her where she wants to sit in a restaurant and which chair she prefers to sit on.
He also tweeted about finances: “She will always criticise your driving and tell you to park there although it is the only parking space left. Thank her for spotting it. You will not believe how many weeks of peace an occasional inexpensive gift that you spent hours choosing will buy you.
Even if your woman has millions in her account, give her small cash occasionally and watch her dance in jubilation. Whatever financial pressures you have, please remember that food money is first line charge. No excuse here.”
Finally, If you have a good woman, The best way to look after your mother and siblings is through your wife. She will add her own money self.
Make it obvious that you will lay down your life for your woman.
